motivation.. how to motivate a student

Attended a training on motivation today.. makes me think, how effective can I be to motivate someone? E.g. with Ken.. I'm using a reward system with him.. extrinsic motivation.. he gets a sticker if he completes his assigned assessment homework with no mistakes..every 10stickers, he can get to choose a toy.. although I can see results, I'm not exactly happy with this system.. I wonder, have I chosen a lazy way? There must be better way to motivate him?

I also questioned myself, "am I a motivated person?".. I would think so.. when challenged, I will always want to prove myself.. and I'm the type who can take hardships.. I will push myself.. I will just do it.. of cos, during the process I will be a complain queen, very drama and need a lot of avenue to vent.. not exactly a nice picture, but I will grit my teeth and push myself to the limit.. I wonder why am I such a person.. was I born like that? perhaps being born as a tigress make me a very stubborn person?

But despite my abilities to follow through tasks, I lack confidence.. I often think myself as lacking.. I don't think I'm NOT good, rather, not AS good.. subtle different.. why is that so? I'm talented in many ways and yet always feel lousy of myself.. I like to "blame" on years of putting down when growing up.. my parents acted humble by telling relatives I didn't do well, despite doing not bad.. But, I'm so old adult already, shouldn't I outgrow this inferiority-complex?

so, how about you? are you a motivated person by nature? if not, what/how would motivate you to be a better person? How should I motivate Ken?



(2011-03-10 00:00:26 SGT) [yours truly] Permalink Comments [1]
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